Monisha comes from a small town in Assam with a hope to study, earn and feed her family. But as she settles down in Mumbai in the year 2007, to pursue her graduation in the field of hotel management, she realises that she has zero knowledge about the city, the people, and what the risks were in living all-alone.
Moreover, she did not see herself climbing the stairs of the hotel industry, but instead she wanted to pursue her dreams to fly. So she found herself working as a flight attendant with Kingfisher Airlines, for about a year and a half. She then moved to Qatar Airlines and stayed in Doha for about two years. during which time she faced some personal crises in her life.
In order to keep herself going on and divert her mind from the problems she was facing, she kept reading self-help and motivational books,. This helped to come out of her misery and put her life on a straight path. She also realised that she could share her experience for the benefit of others, who go through similar situations.
‘Motivate people, get them out of their misery.’ – This became her goal.
So how did Monisha discover herself?
Monisha describes how she comes from a very humble beginning. She had a difficult childhood, her family faced financial crisis, and they were going through a lot of struggle while she was just growing up.
She had a need to be free and see the world through the eyes of her own. She also wanted financial freedom.
She didn’t choose the hotel industry so that she could make a career out of it, she chose it only so that she could travel while she could figure out her journey.
And as a child, Monisha was very bright and talented; but now she had reached a point where she felt she wasn’t living up to her potential. There was more to her than she knew.
But one of the major problems, Monisha faced was a break-up that she had and how much she depended on someone else.
As she talks about the emotional breakdown, she says it was the most toughest time in her life. It was when she was truly is in the moment, feeling and understanding the pain and was also when she became closer to herself.
At times when you hit rock bottom, the only way forward is to climb up. You can either vanish or grow up. Monisha chose to grow up.
‘The best thing about any relationship getting over is the fact that now you know how to make yourself happy and focus on you. And not entertain the other person. The best response is silence.’
And that was when Monisha decided to pursue her career as a life coach.
The best thing about any relationship getting over is the fact that now you know how to make yourself happy and focus on you. And not entertain the other person. The best response is silence.
Becoming a life coach
Monisha knew that she didn’t have an inspiring background that most motivational speakers had She had no clue how to start something she had so much passion for. She held herself back and decided to have a conversation with herself.
She made herself understand that she didn’t need to find a way or a path that was already made for her ; but rather she needed to focus on creating that path by herself. A path which fits well, a path that will fulfill her desire, a path that will lead her to the light, after the dark she was facing.
So, She started working on herself, teaching herself, read a lot of books; so that she one day would become the person she strongly believed in. And when she became fairly confident, she finally jumped all in for being a motivational speaker. She wanted to work full time, and not just give it a try; but make it a living experience, her bread and butter, her joy and sorrow.
What kept motivating her?
Because Monisha was going through a personal and financial crisis, she had reached a point in her life where was ready to take on any challenge she would face. But she didn’t know what to do next. She had quit her job to follow her dreams, and she was living all by herself in Mumbai.
So in the willingness to help herself, she started meditating and reading a lot of self-help books to keep herself positive and seeking for advice. She kept doing things, just to keep herself out of the emotional chaos.
Which was when she came across a very famous self-help book by Rhonda Byrme called ‘The Secret’, (suggested by one of her colleagues when she was working as a flight attendant). She read the book, with an open mind and an open heart; And while many would not have been able to relate to it, for Monisha it was a life-changing experience.
It wasn’t just a book that helped her get back on her feet. but it pushed her to an understanding of how she could be able to make an alignment between her heart and head. She soon discovered a wonderland of books and became very hungry to read, to get motivated.
She didn’t stop there, this wasn’t the only book which helped her stand back on her feet, this was the book that pushed her to an understanding where she was finally able to construct an alignment between her heart and head. She discovered a wonderland of books.
She was hungry to read, to get motivated. To understand and to make understand. Hundreds of books and her mind were at peace.
More Inspirations and writing her first book
She was inspired by a brilliant writer known as Gabby Berstein, a young and a beautiful soul. Monisha loves her writings and believes that Gabby is one of the reasons behind her happiness. Post that, she started reading books by Abraham Hicks. she was learning and getting inspired at every moment.
Monisha says she followed every course that Gabby conducted. She says, “Gabby helped me virtually and emotionally, through her tricks and skills, Gabby had trained herself to become a writer, and now I know it was my chance to train myself.”
Though Monisha never published a hard copy of her book, she is still proud of the fact that her book is genuinely doing well in the market. Her book is the #1 AMAZON bestselling book known to be-”GET HIGH ON SPIRIT- a guidebook from feeling stuck to complete personal freedom and miracles”. However, she explains that she was very young when she wrote the book and is now so much experienced and known to the world, but the fact that she wrote a book being so young and that being a book that has helped people around the globe, she knew she had the nerve to become what she wants to and had chosen the right path of happiness and career.
“Many authors say, know whom you’re writing to, I think I was writing to myself, through that I taught myself to behave, to acknowledge and to have a desire which will drive me to the place I am destined to be at.”
The journey of a life coach to the first CraftVilla Miss Ethnic 2015
One of Monisha’s dreams was to become the Miss India one day. But due to her height, she couldn’t participate and was disappointed. So she had to let go off this desire.
But one fine day, as she was browsing through social media, she landed up on a page that was filled with the details of Miss Ethnic, endorsed by her muse, Kareena Kapoor (which she is a huge fan of). She immediately got attracted to the ad and went to its website to get more details and the first thing she checked was the height requirement. There was no height limit. no limit to it.
Her joy suddenly had no boundaries. No height, no age requirement, the only necessity was the contestant had to be someone who has excelled in something Indian.
But being an author Monisha thought she wasn’t fit for the bill. She kept thinking about the fact that she hasn’t been a part of something that was Indian, she wasn’t a yoga teacher nor was she a social worker, she is just a plain writer.
But nevertheless, Monisha still applied and to her surprise, she went on and got selected upto the regional level. She practiced what she preached. She was very nervous for the results, it’s said that it isn’t the final result that scares you, it’s the wait that does.
Now, Monisha was in the regional-level. She had two options, either to be anxious or to be at peace. And at that time, peace was a rather difficult option to stick to.
So she thought to herself “let’s do something fun”. She went up to a nearby general store and got herself a plastic tiara and a bouquet of flowers, and started behaving like she has won. She had the liberty to do whatever she wanted to, she was in her world of imagination, and it calmed her down, she would eventually meditate for avoiding unnecessary thoughts.
She then worked hard, won the regional, the city and the state competitions. And out of the 50,000 applicants, she was finally selected amongst the top ten for Miss Ethnic.
Monisha kept focusing on herself. She was in the finals. She maintained a thought of what can make herself Miss Ethnic and she stuck to her positivity.
And after all that, taking in great confidence, she finally won.
She had her inspiration standing right next to her, a real tiara on her head, a bouquet of flowers offered by her muse, a title of being the Miss Ethnic of 2015 and some funds to continue her journey as a motivational speaker.
The feeling was surreal, she gained the confidence she never thought she had. She had the most taxing time during this situation, but she has learned and has grown as a speaker, a writer and as a human.
Be patient with yourself, be easy on yourself, be your own best friend. You want a sustainable success. Not the one that comes and goes, but the one that stays. So be in the moment, meditate and believe in yourself.
Monisha says, “In the end what you have to do is, be the normal human being that you are.You will have a thought in your mind about what to do next, you might forget about how far you have come and you will start thinking about how far you want to go. That is exactly the time you’ve got to hold yourself back. Get to your present, and know the balance between past and future that is your present. You will always have more to yourself, not once will things stop for you.”
Something to stay by
A really happy person is one who honours and accepts all kinds of emotions, and not fights those emotions. When you allow yourself to feel that way, you come back to your alignment between your head and your heart.
Women and men regardless, irrespective of your gender, there has to be a balance between your masculine side and a feminine side, men try not to be vulnerable, and women stay in their feminine side more than required, but when one is alive, have your balance, use when what is necessary. Be more fearless, be less dependent. Be vulnerable, it’s okay to be that.
With her parents being happy for Monisha, she is now a proud daughter and a successful human being.
Monisha regularly conducts motivational workshops and you can learn more at monishadoley.com
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